It’s always there, lurking in the background.
Some days we are better at stuffing it down inside and ignoring it.
Am I good enough?
Will this work?
Am I enjoying myself enough?
Can I actually do this?
Is this what I really want?
That is self doubt.
And self doubt is nothing more than your innate human capability to fear the unknown. The fear of change. The fear of risk. The fear of failure. The fear of achievement.
These were useful reactions when we were hunters and gatherers. But we are hunters and gatherers no more. It is time to move past our fears.
We must overcome our own self doubt.
Overcoming self doubt
Most of the time I feel confident and competent. I knew I was going to grow a multimillion dollar business. And I did.
I know that I can be a good father and husband. And I am (or at least I try).
Knowing something is just the beginning.
To overcome self doubt, you have to do the work to make it happen. You have to build systems to support the work.
I can’t say that I know I am going to be a great dad, but then never show up for my kids. I have to show up day after day, even when I am thoroughly exhausted by their endless energy.
Building a business took years. I always knew It was going to be something great, but it was a slow process. You have to lay bricks one by one. Some days are painful. Some days are full of self doubt, dips, and slow progress.
Yet, all you need to do to overcome self doubt is to show up, do your best, and build momentum.
Start small to build momentum
I make my bed every day.
It gives me the easiest win possible to start my day. That one little win, helps propel me to always be my best. This small act of productivity gives me the momentum I need.
Last year, I added journaling/morning pages to my morning routine.
Yet again, another momentum builder. If nothing else, I can get all the bad juju out on the page. Self doubt, struggles, sadness, happiness, boringness, it all goes there on the page.
So you start small, and you get the wins you need to get things done.
Then you do the work.
Finally, you have to do the work. It is the only way to persist through the self doubt. It is the only way to prove to yourself that yeah, you may fail, you may not be getting anywhere, but hell or high water I am at least going to do something about it.
You have to prove your self doubt wrong. Turn it on its head, but saying forget about you self doubt, I will do this anyway.
We all have self doubt.
I overcome it every day by simply getting something done, building my momentum and put the fear and the self doubt behind me.
Self doubt is not actually real. It is only a fear setting mechanism in our biology – biology that we have outgrown.
Don’t let self doubt get in the way of any of your dreams. Ever.
You got this. I know you do, because all you need to do is make your bed.
Extinguish self doubt.